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Travelling Light

We all have our preferences and idiosyncrasies. Mine are (I like to think fondly) described by my friends as ‘Carlaisms’  – rather goofy things that I do when I am lacking in present moment awareness. They range from the momentary lapses that result in the keys, glasses, phone or wallet being found in the freezer [...]

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-11-20

Travelling light to extreme, off to remote island with my bag sitting forlonly on driveway at home. # Last Friday on 11 11 11 at 11:11am my daughter and I made it to the healing rock on Gulaga Mountain, and then joined others for meditation # In Perth went to Canning Stock Route exhibition WOW [...]

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Travelling Light

We all have our preferences and idiosyncrasies. Mine are (I like to think fondly) described by my friends as ‘Carlaisms’  – rather goofy things that I do when I am lacking in present moment awareness. They range from the momentary lapses that result in the keys, glasses, phone or wallet being found in the freezer or worse still tumble dryer, to more odd occurrences like finding my Mothers stupendous Almond Peachy Pie on the roof of the car (which incidentally had travelled 7km, after I waved back at every friendly passing car who were frantically pointing to the roof). At another time, it was a more colourful display, with a bag of 6 bridesmaid dresses – all that I had dutifully worn – streaming from the trailer, reminiscent of some of the magnificent scenes from Priscilla Queen of the Dessert. Fortunately, most of these incidents occur when I am ‘off duty’ (yes there are many more to recount), with my relaxed self allowing more of the dreamy Piscean personality aspects to emerge rather than the rising of the wonderfully organised Virgo.

Which brings me to now, on a Sunday morning, on a plane, travelling exceptionally light. I left home at 4:30am. Late last night I wisely thought “It would be sensible to put my luggage in the car now, rather than rely on my half awake self to be reliable”. A great thought which I proceeded to ignore. I arrive at the airport at 7:30am, go into automatic mode, swing back to grab my bag and there was – nothing. Checked the boot – nothing. Under the seats – nothing……. So I ring home for confirmation that, yes, the said bag is sitting forlornly on the driveway, getting rather wet from the torrential rain. (This reminds me some 24 years ago of leaving 6 ducklings left in my charge in the school driveway – some things don’t change I guess). Home is 3 hours away. I do a quick check to recall all of the essential items left in the bag and those on my person – I do have my wallet and laptop (albeit without power cord). I pause……….and then………..laugh as I am overwhelmed by an incredible sense of freedom and lightness. I feel like shouting WOOHOOO!

There is a lot to be said about ‘baggage’ and leaving it behind. Every time I travel, which at the moment is about every other week, I manage to leave one essential item behind, which varies with degree of importance and replace-ability. I have pared it back now to 4 essential items – contact lenses and paraphernalia (which I am legally blind without), toothpaste and brush, laptop and wallet. All the rest is nice to have, however not necessary.

There has been one other occasion where I have been without everything. In 2002, I was on my way to the International Association of Facilitators Conference (IAF) in Phoenix Arizona. I decided to take very little carry-on luggage (which is unusual for me, I typically travel with carry-on only), and to check all and sundry through. I was carrying special gifts, which included 12 carved Clapping Sticks made by a close friend and about 30 t-shirts with Aboriginal designs. As I watched the bag enter the conveyor belt jaws of the unknown in LA, I had a funny feeling, and recall saying to myself “There goes that”. And so it was, the bag and all of its special contents were never seen again. This put me into an interesting position at the conference, and made the week that much more memorable on so many levels. I had an interesting story and a richer entrée into engaging with so many more people. I let go of the ‘control freak’ and allowed my vulnerability to show, relying on the generosity of others to clothe me. Again, it was a great opportunity to reflect on what is ‘stuff’ and what really matters.

So almost 10 years down the track and I find myself in a similar position. Heading to a remote Island, no shops, travelling light – although this time of my own doing, albeit unintentional. This gives me opportunity to pause and reflect on why I feel so great about this. I ask myself  – How much extra ‘stuff’ do  I carry with me every day, whether tangible or metaphysical, and how much of an impact is this having on myself and those around me?  I fret about leaving things behind when I travel – for good reason – I have left passports, wallets, phones you name it on planes, trains and automobiles. I think this time around, I have a better chance of ‘keeping it together’ as I have only 3 or 4 things to be concerned about. More importantly though, with this sense of lightness and freedom, I feel a sense of focus and expansion, I feel more open and generous, not being weighed down by the material.

I am also curious as to the potential impact on my work through the week. My hunch is that it will be a positive. A few weeks ago, at the wonderful Australian Facilitators Network Conference at Fremantle, I attended a terrific session by Michelle Howard on the Facilitator Stripped Bare. In this session, Michelle explored through the lens of the Victorian Fires, when you stripped it back to the core essentials of a facilitator – what were they? Words like honesty, humour, transparency, heart felt listening and adaptability resonated with me. I hope that with less baggage, I can bring more of these to my work this week.

 

Twitter Weekly Updates for 2011-11-20

  • Travelling light to extreme, off to remote island with my bag sitting forlonly on driveway at home. #
  • Last Friday on 11 11 11 at 11:11am my daughter and I made it to the healing rock on Gulaga Mountain, and then joined others for meditation #
  • In Perth went to Canning Stock Route exhibition WOW evocative, emotive, esquisite – a MUST see. Amazing stories and artists. #
  • Have had an exhilarating 2 weeks, running Evolve's course in Perth and Wagga Wagga, conference in Freo…lots of new ideas & great exchanges #

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Facilitating difference from oneness


As my plane moves over and away from the magical landscape of Mornington Island, in the Gulf of Carpentaria, I marvel at the patterns of landscape, so strong, that you can see and feel the movement of land and hear the songs. So much cohesion, connection and oneness from difference… which brings me to some of the main reflections and questions that I have had over the past week….

How do you facilitate for difference and sameness, at once? In facilitating engagement within any culture or community, it is critical that we celebrate and allow for difference. Expression of difference and diversity informed the development of EVOLVE’s meeting marketplace approach (having an informal yarn, a cuppa and chat while yielding useful hard data) and Engaged Community Model. Yet a focus on difference and diversity alone can be alienating and even counterproductive. In my experience, it is best done in a way that deeply connects and embodies what we share as universal human needs and aspirations – that in fact dissolves boundaries and recognises oneness.

I have observed recently, during some cultural awareness and facilitation training programs, that they had as their foundation – difference. This, to my mind, manifested as “us and them” and in fact in many ways was counterproductive – alienating, disengaging and frustrating many. I was taken aback when I was speaking about commonality and connection, when the course organiser asked me for an example of what might be common across cultures. I did not have to respond as other participants readily piped up: need for belonging, connection, sense of place, love of Country and culture……I think if we had started from a place of what we shared across cultures and then celebrated our uniqueness and difference, the experience and feelings generated from the course and the lasting messages may have been largely different.

Another theme I have been exploring through the week is around emptiness and fullness of attitude and state of mind. I feel strongly whenever I commence a project or am facilitating, about the importance of preparation, of which a major part is co-design. Once I have prepared, sometimes it feels to within an inch of my life, I can then relax, be open, work with what appears and improvise. Through preparation, I have clarity of intention and purpose that I often would not have achieved otherwise. I also have confidence to adapt, change and work with the gifts as they present, and to be present. I have also realised over time the importance of leaving a ‘gap’ between my preparation and commencing or being with a project and group, to allow myself to empty and let go of extraneous or unnecessary thoughts and distractions. I find meditation and travel (plane, train, automobile) a great pause and clearing space for this.

Observers may perceive the extent of preparation, co-design and planning that I undertake when working with Indigenous cultures for example as over the top – “let’s just go with the flow”. Yes, I will go with the flow and to a large degree operate on the principles of Open Space (whatever happens is the only thing that could have, whenever it starts is the right time, whoever comes are the right people, when it is over it is over). I won’t do this however, without doing the necessary preparation to have an agreed and clear intent and purpose (the Why). While I will co-design and prepare an approach (the How), it is my experience that usually what happens dramatically departs from the plan in terms of approach, while remaining true to the intent and values that we have jointly articulated.

Difference can often and does manifest amongst project and Evolve team members. We are humans.  What I have found useful is to step back, remind myself and explore what we have in common, and remaine aware that we all have different working styles and approaches. The ‘sameness’ or unity in my experience,  is a strong passion and commitment to the place, values underpinning the project, commitment to making it work and therefore intent. From this platform of shared intent and understanding, differences have naturally aligned or resolved to enable us to move forward together.

Side note: Plane just landed in Normanton (teeny tiny town in the Gulf) to do a “pick up” of 4 passengers, who looked immediately familiar and then it dawned upon me that they were participants in an Evolve Engaged Community Course in Canberra this April AND they while in the Gulf they had been trialling some of the ideas we explored in this course. Gotta love life and connections!

3 days later………and I laze on Magnetic Island, reconnecting with a deep sense of relaxation, stillness and family. Even my typing is problematic and slower! I am thinking about the Evolve session for the Australian Facilitators Conference (AFN)……with the wonderful Evolve Indigenous team members, including Munya Andrews, Alana Marsh and Mark Thomson. The session will explore the musings above, making connections, with many of you I hope………and a belief that a bridge between difference and sameness is critical for fundamental transformations desired in community and society. The session will be about current practical and gritty Evolve projects – one which is excitingly grounded – where EVOLVE is employing and training local Community Researchers and facilitators from 2 remote Indigenous Communities; to engage their own community in Hard Yarns.

For now, back to the coconuts and fresh fish (of which I caught 2 this am!)

How do you do the dance betwee…

How do you do the dance between exquisite tensions? Power and love, too much too little..underlies all of our work. http://icont.ac/6lEQ

Dancing between exquisite tensions


 “Power without love is reckless and abusive, and love without power is sentimental and anaemic. Power at its best is love implementing the demands of justice, and justice at its best is power correcting everything that stands against love.” — Martin Luther King Jr.

I write this sitting in what is the most special place in the world to me; a place where I seek and find clarity and guidance if feeling ambivalent or confused. The sun shines on me, as I look out over Baranguba (Montague) Island, feeling encircled, nurtured and protected by the cove within which I sit, book-ended by sacred rocks and the sounds of the ocean washing over me. I went to my office this morning brimming with ideas, in great anticipation of writing this newsletter. However, when I picked up pen, I found that I was stuck inside a cacophony of thoughts. It felt like there was a veil between me and a clear concept that I wished to share with you, and I could not lift that veil. In an attempt to do so, I came to my favourite “clearing space”. What occurred to me was that what I was experiencing in that moment was a tension between clarity and confusion, and that exquisite tensions of this kind underlie much of our work. And so I began to write….

Much of our work with community and as facilitators is defined by how we dance between ‘exquisite tensions’. To give an example at the simplest level: In Evolve’s community engagement training, we co-design the training with participants. What emerges from this is a diversity of needs and an exquisite tension between information (too much, too little, too complex, too simple, too generic, too specific). In constant communication with the participants, we dance between these tensions to find a way forward that will meet all needs. On a deeper and more profound level underlying our work, is the tension between love and power. In the words of Adam Kahane (2010, Power and Love: A Theory and Practice of Social Change):

To co-create new social realities, we have to work with two distinct fundamental forces that are in tension: power and love. In order for each to achieve its full potential, it needs the other. Adam Kahane, 2010.

This tension (between power and love) in working with community is paramount. In a recent survey of Evolve readers (the results of which are summarised below), I asked how you would most like for me to communicate with you. Many of you requested that I share more case studies from my work and that of Evolve. Interestingly, in itself this is a dance between a tension of ensuring that I respect the confidentiality of clients and all participants, with a strong desire to share learning from my experiences with you, particularly from mistakes that I make. I share a story with you now with this tension in mind.

I am on the precipice or eve of a milestone for a project that is very dear to me, and that I have been working on for the past five years. In this project, I feel deeply privileged at the opportunity to have worked with the Boards of Management for, and Aboriginal owners of, Gulaga and Biamanga National Parks, to help them create their vision and management framework for the Mountains for the next 10 years. In terms of the approach (the how), the design has been embedded in the principles of participatory planning, drawing from a range of tools and approaches (in fact over the course of five years I think we have drawn from the full spectrum). The most powerful of these approaches have always been around being on the Mountains and storytelling through a variety of forms. The highlight for me was a recent workshop for Aboriginal owners held on Gulaga Mountain where people expressed, through whatever art form they chose, “What calls me back to the Mountains”. Holding the workshop in a retreat space at the base of Gulaga automatically took us into, what I felt, was a balanced space between power and love (this is for a host of reasons, including that in a conventional meeting room, the power and comfort sits with those of us who are more used to operating in this space).

The milestone that we reach tomorrow involves reviewing the first complete draft of our work from the past five years. I have a mixture of feelings around this: nervousness, excitement, and some resistance to this part of the journey coming to an end. I think most of my nervousness relates to exquisite tensions – between information (too much, too little), direction (too much, too little), style (too narrative, too technical), legislative requirements (not satisfied, over-emphasis) and so on. In this work, I think that where the tension most often pops up is arising from elements of what Kahane terms as “power-over”.

Degenerative power is described as ‘power over’ or the forcing or maintaining of oppression over others in ways that result in the reduction of an individual or community’s capacity to heal.

“Power over” in my work, particularly with Indigenous communities, can often expresses itself as, despite intentions to the contrary: We-are-pretty-much-doing -things-our-conventional-way,-business-as-usual,-and -retrofitting-this-system-to-the-needs-of-participants. An awareness of the potential for power-over is paramount for me now now as EVOLVE is in the midst of designing a large participatory planning project for two remote Aboriginal communities in the Carpentaria, with a mindfulness of not ‘doing engagement to’ rather than ‘with’.

As a backdrop to all of this is a book that sits beside me “My People’s Dreaming: An Aboriginal Elder Speaks On Life, Land, Spirit And Forgiveness” (2010) by Max Dulumunmun Harrison. This book also tells the stories of the two Mountains and Baranguba island. I recommend this book, for its beauty and for its clarity and wisdom. In addition to the book, is a wonderful program on Message Stick – Uncle Max: The More I Give the More I Keep (March 2010). In the book, Max Harrison concludes with describing a tension between forgiveness and resentment (which could also possibly be viewed as power and love):

Forgiveness is one of the highest extreme levels of acceptance. It is one of the greatest achievements if you can forgive – your spirit stays free. It is not caught up in that turmoil of anger and that resentment that is carried to your grave or through your life. You must strive to be free of that to have free spirit, to have a spirit that is not tarnished in that sense.

 

 

WOW what a week. A 5 year proj…

WOW what a week. A 5 year project milestone yesterday, off to show our daughter some snow for first time and to pick up our new VW Camper.

Happy NAIDOC time. I am on EVO…

Happy NAIDOC time. I am on EVOLVE quarterly holidays, north of Byron. Incredibly special place, in sight of Wollumbin (Mt Warning)….